Updates.

Not much to report. I think I am pretty much sticking with just dating Scooter boy and Chef Boy for right now. Well that is if Chef Boy ever returns to SF. No I jest, he is due back the 2nd. Its funny, I really have no idea what we are doing, where I stand, what he is looking for etc....And just when I sort of resign myself to the fact its simply a casual dalliance he pops in. He sends me little messages via email, like he does not know how to just say hey to me. Example, last night...I got a message with the word "Finally" as the re:, and the text of the email was as follows....

Scotch and Dexter after a long day of errands and housecleaning.

No how are you or anything. We had a rather lengthy email exchange on Friday, and this came yesterday late, so I replied today and we had another lengthy email exhange while he was at the airport waiting to fly to Hawaii. So I am not sure what to make of him. He pops in and checks in every couple of days. I am sort of holding back and letting him iniate contact since its a little unclear what we are doing, and well quite frankly its sort of nice to be pursued on some level. So time will tell what happens with chef boy, he is only briefly back in SF before the Christimas holiday, so hoping we at least get a chance to grab a bite and laze about in bed.

Now onto Scooter Boy. Oh scooter boy, so, so awesome in so many ways. Now I am about to sound incredibly shallow but I wish scooter boy came in alternative packaging. He is not very tall, a bad dresser, cute, but could use some help. However, he is funny, charming, smart, thoughtful, and enamored of me. Now I don't mean to sound egotistical, but seriously it is so f-ing refreshing to be with someone who actually WANTS to spend time with me, both in and out of bed. LOL. There have been several dates, lunch in Noe, window shopping, watching 30 rock at his place, watching sunset at Lands End and hot pot in the Richmond, dog walking at Stow Lake, and linner in the Inner Sunset, korean bbq lunch and shopping in Japantown, with dinner in NOPA. He is continuously attentive etc, and both Sir Trout and Nibbler adore him. We have not really discussed any sort of status of what we are doing etc....so until that time I feel like its perfectly okay for me to see both he and chefboy. If it comes to that discussion, I will certainly need to bridge that divide with Chefboy, as he is the person I would prefer to have a relationship with. Not that a relationship with scooterboy would be bad, just that it seems like we are on different life paths right now, whereas Chefboy and I are a bit more on the same page with respect to opinions on marriage and children.

Alas that's all I have got for now....oh except a shout out for my awesome internet/real life buddy distractionbike....who very awesomely distracted me from work Friday with lunch and museum visit! He is awesome company and I feel damn lucky to be making some pretty amazing friends in SF!!!!!

Encinitas with Chef Boy.

So I sort of snuck away on Tuesday to spend the day and night with Chef Boy down in Encinitas, which is just a touch North of San Diego. Perhaps highly irresponsible but totally worth it. He has been gone for ages, NOLA, NY, Chi-town, and then unexpectedly to San Diego to ail for his cat P.G. who currently resided at his parents house. I got a call from him last week giving me a break down of his plans, and a thinly veiled invite to come hang out. So well I did. We met up for sushi in Solana Beach and had a leisurely lunch filled with amazingly fresh sashimi, sake, and beer. Headed to his parents' place, and well in a word....wow. Spent the afternoon with gin and tonic, watched the sunset from the ocean, hot tub, trivial pursuit, and lots more laphroaig and beer. Woke up with a wicked hangover and an adorable boy in bed next to me. Got up, showered, greasy tacos (hangover cure) watched Wristcutters: A Love Story and I headed back to the city. A brief albiet awesome visit. This boy is totally swoon worthy. But alas, he is back in the City Monday, then back to SD Thursday, Dallas that weekend, then Kauai with his fam for T-Day. Right now I am cautiously optimistic we will hang when he is back in the city, although still confused as to what if anything might come of the whole thing, at least um there is lots of amazing stuff happening in the bedroom.....:) Further updates on the disappearance of the Ginger and scooter boy forthcoming.

Scooter Boy updates and more.

So its been a bit, and work and life have been keeping me busy as per usual. Halloween is my favorite holiday so I was focused on making an adorbs costume and having a good time, but wanted to update.

Chef Boy has been out of town first in NOLA, then NY, then Chicago, he returns tomorrow.
Ginger. Hmmmm, I have to admit I was sort of avoiding a confrontation, and we made plans last weekend for Saturday night, but they got boondoggled after I locked myself out of my apartment, with keys in Sacramento, and had to wait a couple of hours to track down the person with my spare. The next day we made plans which he cancelled due to a friend in town, and then I was swamped all week, and this weekend I was in Sac. So we have plans on Thursday. He has been a bit too clingy, but I noticed he has pulled back a little, but I need to have a conversation letting him know that I am seeing some other people I am a bit more interested in. I felt like a person to person conversation was the better way to address that.

Scooter Boy has proved to be something of a surprise. Physically he is pretty much the opposite of what I go for. I tend to gravitate to the tall, blond, blue eyed type, well tall at a minimum. He is a bit short, dark hair, brown eyes, but so damn sweet and endearing who gives a damn. Last week we had a last minute date, lunch, Randall Museum, hike onto hill to look over the City, and then the best part, a trip to Steward Street mini park slides! I cannot even remember the last time I went down a slide! I had a skirt on which made the endeavor fairly hysterical but it was loads of fun. He dropped me off. Then came over later for drinks and movie. Halloween night he came over for scary movie and fun! Yesterday we took the dogs to Fort Funston and then had linner. He sends me totally amazing emails and is funny and self assured. So yea things are going good.

I am considering taking a break from dating anyone else at this point as I feel like my dance card is a bit full, but at the same time I keep meeting really cool people who at a minimum I hope will stick as friends....

Oh and tune in later for more on the Cuban who has popped up, and db if you are reading he has a friend of yours in common....small, small, world I tell ya!

Chef Boy....Part Deux

So chef boy took a wine making class over the weekend, but we made plans to meet for dim sum. Tuesday was ideal given my crazy work schedule etc....that morning he touched base and I planned on taking the 38 up Geary and meeting him for lunch. A little before I was set to catch the bus he texted and said he had an errand to run so he would pick me up. He arrived and I climbed on the back of his vespa, looking adorable in a skirt and new boots dare I say. We were seeking out a new place next to the regular dim sum place he goes to, and to which I had been upon his suggestion. We got all the way there only to find the place we wanted to try was closed so we just went next door. We had a long and lazy lunch, and then when on our way back he let me keep his hands in his pockets as it was cold. He is a bit of a fast driver, which is a win, makes me hold on tighter. He dropped me at my corner and I was a bit bummed when I just got a kiss, but then he said he would pick me up later for a movie. :)

We made plans to see Its Kind of a Funny Story at the Kabuki. He picked me up and I was prepared for the cold, we jetted off, picked up some chimay to sneak in, and had a lovely time, although the movie was a disappointment. We debated cocktails or a return to my place and opted for my place, which was in a word....AWESOME. :) Alas he is off for a two week trip to New Orleans and New York....but I look forward to his return.

Scooter Boy.

Alas I come to final boy, whom shall be called Scooter boy since I already christened J "Chef boy". Scooter boy is a linguist, copy editor, who is starting a green energy co-op. Yea, no seriously, he speaks 6 languages, can you say hawt? From SF, lives in Bernal, a little younger than me and adorable. He has a dacschund for goodness sake! :) Sent me a message and as always we quickly made plans for lunch on Friday. Yea, I know I am a little crazy with the back to back dating, but I am a busy a lot these days....Met for Chinese and had a great lunch. Then we left and were walking along, I with a cute dress and boots on, he asked if he could give me a ride home. I accepted, and there I was for the second day in a row swinging my leg over the back of a scooter. He did not take me directly home, squee! Had a great time, date ended with kiss, and plans for dinner, which I had to reschedule due to work, boo. :(

Alright, we shall see what this week holds, but given my trips to Sacramento and San Diego I think I might be pretty damn busy for any new dates.

Chef Boy.

Let me preface this post with I have dated more in the three months I have lived in the City then I did in the nearly year before I was single in Sacramento. I am not sure what that says, but I am happy for the change. I have never really dated before, as a serial monogamist it can be somewhat problematic to date...lol. Its been refreshing and fun meeting new people and getting to know them, whether it goes anywhere romantically or not.

So with that enter Chef Boy. I had seen his profile, and he seemed fairly adorable, and indicated he was just looking for new friends. He wrote a lot about cooking, changing careers to focus on being a chef, and generally seemed interesting. I sent him a message about sazerac cocktails....and a conversation ensued. Now I figured yay to new friends. We kept up quite an email exchange beginning in September, but our schedules just never really met up. He moved from NOPA to the Presidio, and then was traveling loads, and well work and life have been keeping me busy. However, finally the planets aligned and we made plans to meet on Thursday.

I had to be in Sacramento fro a deposition, but I wanted to meet him so I figured I could make it work. That day he emailed me so we could figure out what we might do, he suggested either cocktails out, or a sunset walk at Chrissy Field with the dog, and a bottle of laphroaig he had just purchased. That email was my first clue I might not just be meeting up for some casual hang out. I mean seriously sunset walk....the boys here are so much better at the date thing! I made it back to the city by 6:30 which sort of estopped the sunset walk.

I rushed to shower, dropped my Here Sweetie delivery with harpygirl, and walked to meet Chef boy at Rickhouse. I had not been, but he said it could be fun. I got there just a bit late, and he was right there, and well....um....swoon. Tall. Shaggy haired. Glasses. Dressed well. And um generally adorable. He gave me a hug and kiss on the cheek, so further swoon. We ended up having several fun cocktails, one scotch based, one rye based, and one bourbon based. We let the waitress guide us, it was fun. Great conversation. Now I had not had dinner given the rush to meet him nor had he. We walked over to Cafe Claude shared a cheese plate and then another cocktail. He has an adorable brand new shiny black Vespa and we walked back to his scooter. He had mentioned making it an early night because he had a friend coming in from Chicago but when we got back to scooter he did not seem all that intent on going home. Instead, he kind of invited himself over. So we scootered over, San Francisco my friends is already a terribly romantic city, but seeing it on the back of a scooter with a cute boy takes the cake. We got back to my place, which was a shambles (well for me, I realize those who know me will know my shambles is other people's clean) Poured us some scotch and we took Sir Trout out for his evening constitutional. We came back, and well making out started that lasted a long time, and I know I had my scotch glass in hand the whole time....and well one thing led to another, and alas, good sex redeems really bad sex.

At around 4 am! he got dressed and went home, and I promptly feel asleep only to awake at 7 am for work! EEKS!

I realize it is not always wise to sleep with people on a first date, well let's face it its never really wise but it can be fun. And this was. I figured maybe I would hear from him, maybe not, no biggie. Alas that morning he texted and we have plans for dim sum next week...not sure what to make of chef boy though. He seems maybe a little out of my league, very handsome, very well educated, very very successful, maybe a little independently wealthy. I am just rolling with it, and appreciating someone who likes good food, fun cocktails, is smart and charming and seems to like me. YAY....

To follow, one more date, with another scooter boy and I think that will catch us up.

Drummer Boy. Actor Boy. Google Boy.

So between the boys I have seen more than once there have been plenty of one time dates.

First up, drummer boy. Now I should probably be smarter given the 8 year relationship I had with drummer boy part 1, but this guy seemed nice, tall, 39, actually making a living as a musician. He invited me out to Samovar at Yerba Buena Gardens and I accepted. I had never been to Samovar and after a quick online consult it looked like an interesting place. I got dolled up and took the opportunity to walk, as its not terribly far from me. We met, he was all that he appeared to be. We had tea, shared a cheese plate, we walked to BART together, and then never spoke or saw each other again. Nothing wrong just nothing right either ....dating is weird like that, you meet people you can talk to, have stuff in common with, share a little laughter with, but alas just not feeling it.

Next, the same day I met foot boy I had plans to meet actor boy at Elixir in the Mission. He seemed cool, graphic designer for a small magazine, but into acting, and seemed to share my interests in good beer. We met for drinks (what is it with boys in the City only picking places in the Mission...I mean I'm just saying...) We had a good time, laughed a hell of a lot I knew I probably never wanted to see him again, and again we said goodbyes, and I wish him the best. Never heard from him again, so I think the lack of interest was mutual and palpable on both parts.

Finally, there was google boy. A bit younger than me, cute, nice, we had loads in common etc. We exchanged several emails, he invited me to a party at his house as our first meeting (which while it might seem weird won him a few points with me) alas I already had plans, so we made dinner plans at La Trappe in North Beach, so we could sample some awesome belgian beers and share a meal. We met up, he was cute, nice, funny, we had a 4 hour meal, beer session. I offered him a ride home, and when we parted he made sure I had his email and phone number. Next day I emailed him to thank him for dinner (he was the first boy I employed this whole I am not even reaching for my wallet thing with given he asked me out....) and to send a link to a website about how to make something we had discussed. We exchanged a few emails, and then nothing. Now ordinarily I would just brush it off but it seemed odd. I have never followed up with him, but he keeps looking at my profile about once a week, so its unclear what happened or what he is thinking. I figure I will leave well enough alone, I think I made it clear I would like to hang out with him again but he just does not seem to be all that terribly interested. C'est la vie.